Have you been feeling less than confident recently? Feeling sort of…empty inside?
Then NoFap may help. Thousands of ‘NoFappers‘ have already experienced unprecedented confidence and higher-then-ever self-esteem — just from abstaining from masturbation/ejaculation. Let’s take a closer look at how you can use NoFap to radically boost the way you see yourself!
First, though, let’s look at what confidence is in the first place.
The key to confidence
What confidence is not:
- Pride
- Egotism
- Selfishness
- Narcissism
There’s a fine (but very important) line between confidence and these other traits. Confidence comes from within and doesn’t rely on the opinions of others. Confidence empowers your true self — not just your ego.
Confidence often comes with practice. The better you get at doing your job or running your business, the more confident you’ll become in those areas; the stronger you get in the gym, the more confident you’ll be before your next five-plate deadlift.
Notice anything here? These types of confidence are activity-specific. Making a lot of money may not translate to being confident in the gym, and being stronger in the gym may not make you more confident at work!
The confidence that comes from NoFap is different. It’s more of a nonspecific confidence. You’ll probably become much more confident around women, sure, but that’s not really the point. NoFap tends to make practitioners more confident about everything.
NoFap can increase your motivation levels, too. Some people become so motivated and excited about life that they’re able to throw away their to-do list and just start knocking things out. In other words, your motivation will come from within, not from external pressures.
How does NoFap make you more confident?
How does NoFap boost self-confidence? Through several different mechanisms, some of which haven’t yet been discovered by science.
But the very most basic source of NoFap’s insanely high confidence levels is something called masculinity.
Seriously. At its core, NoFap makes you more masculine. The longer you stay on your NoFap journey, the more masculine and manly you‘ll feel — in a way that‘s hard to explain if you haven‘t yet experienced it!
We’ll go into the chemistry behind this masculine confidence soon, but first, let’s look at how early monk mode practitioners viewed things. They viewed semen retention as a way to cause ‘life force’ to flow upwards through the spine, causing increased mental power, confidence, and magnetism:
“The only difference there is between the average man and the Superman [a man who‘s retaining] is that the average man lets the procreative urge flow downward while the Superman turns the procreative urge upward and reproduces within himself a NEW MAN — a strong, powerful, magnetic man who is constantly growing younger, day by day, moment by moment. This is the true SUPERMAN, who creates within himself the true ‘ELIXIR OF LIFE.‘“ [1]
Sound like pseudoscience? Don’t be so sure. Maybe these early practitioners were speaking to something truly scientific with the terminology they had available at the time.
Speaking of science, here’s what we’ve uncovered about the inner workings of NoFap and confidence so far.
How NoFap changes your brain
Modern science is just beginning to discover how NoFap changes your brain.
For one, NoFap provides a much-needed reboot away from internet porn addiction. It may sensitize your brain to dopamine and testosterone over time, resulting in higher dopamine levels and testosterone levels. [2]
And the longer you take a break from hyperstimulatory visuals, the better things get. (Stay away from porn, of course, but also resist looking at thirst-trap Instagram pics or YouTube videos.) Avoiding these types of stimulation will allow your dopamine receptors to get more and more sensitive over time. Higher dopamine levels are associated with reduced rates of depression, reduced addictive tendencies, and higher levels of motivation.
You‘ll know this dopamine detox is happening when you start to appreciate the little things again, things like watching the wind move across the grass or listening to old music. Abstain for long enough and you’ll regain that childlike wonder for the world. Congrats, your brain’s neurotransmitters are coming back to life!
Most people notice that their confidence begins to rise after 14-21 days of NoFap, with another major breakthrough coming around the 55-day mark. These figures vary from person to person, though, depending on their age, hormonal status, and metabolism. You may have to get through a flatline or two as your body gets accustomed to a new different dopamine level, but stick with it and things will get better and better with time.
5 ways NoFap can increase your confidence
Let’s dive a little deeper into the specifics by looking at 5 common ways NoFap increased confidence. Read up on some NoFap forums or on Reddit and you’ll hear about these changes again and again and again:
- More eye contact
- A deeper voice
- Better overall mental health
- A higher sex drive
- A more attractive appearance
More eye contact
NoFap reliably makes it easier to make eye contact with people. The longer you forsake the digital world and stay immersed in real life, the easier it becomes to relate the others. Expect your social skills to skyrocket over time.
A deeper voice
This is one of the most interesting long-term effects of NoFap. It sometimes takes a while to kick in, but after 2-3+ weeks of retaining you should notice your voice becoming deeper, louder, and more energized. Women will probably respond with more interest; men will probably respond with more respect.
Better overall mental health
Depression, anxiety, and ADHD may all start to fade the longer you stay on NoFap. You might just begin to feel happy for no apparent reason! Don‘t be surprised if people begin complimenting your vibe without really knowing why. You can thank dopamine for these changes.
A higher sex drive
Expect your sex drive to skyrocket after several weeks of NoFap. Redirect this sexual energy towards your goals, and good things should start to happen. If the energy becomes overwhelming, try redirecting it with cold showers, breathwork, and/or the Five Tibetan Rites.
A more attractive appearance
Last but not least, a pretty significant portion of NoFappers report getting more attractive on a long NoFap streak. This may sound too good to be true, but don’t be too quick to dismiss it — there could be an evolutionary reason for this change.
It’s possible that NoFap plays on your body‘s biological incentive to mate. If you‘re getting off from porn use everyday, your body doesn‘t really have any incentive to attract a mate. From its perspective you already have one! If you’re on a NoFap streak, on the other hand, your body may experience a sort of internal pressure to become more attractive.
This somewhat mystical-sounding concept is confirmed by the changes in testosterone, dopamine, cortisol, serotonin, etc. that may take place during NoFap. From a long-term perspective, NoFap might be the perfect thing to improve your sex life.
Does NoFap really make you more attractive?
NoFap forum users speculate that there may be other correlations between NoFap and attraction, too. One user claims that semen‘s albumin content can be reabsorbed and redirected back into the rest of the body if it’s not ‘spent’ on ejaculation, leading to fresher, younger-looking skin. Users report less acne, better hairlines, sharper jaw lines, healthier under-eye areas, and even improved canthal tilt. These benefits might sound too good to be true, but the sheer number of people noticing them means they‘re probably not from the placebo effect.
NoFap confidence: summing things up
NoFap can make you more confident from the inside out. So much so that it’ll radically change the way other people see you!
NoFap can boost confidence by improving your appearance, too. Get ready to be treated differently by coworkers, parents, men, and, yes — women. And don’t forget to enjoy the journey.
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